Why are you selling yourself short?
Most guys are treating their dating life like a super-cheap investment. They go out to bars and on town and ogle the high-price stocks (the beautiful girls) but they shy away from actually entering the game and spending investment capital (their dating skills.)
Stop settling for poor performance and poor return from minimal effort. You shouldn’t let yourself accept that what you’re getting right now is the best you can get in terms of return, and you certainly should look at where you can raise the bar for your own performance.
How can you improve?
Accept the fact that nobody knows it all. There is always something you need to work on and improve. And this goes for any skill, trade or profession in life. The funny thing is that as you get better, the skill will be so intertwined with your personality that it will flow effortlessly from you rather than being forced out.
Where can you improve?
Start aiming higher and actually believing that it is within your reach. Can you see where you’re not getting the results you want and make a move on a real investment?
Are you dating someone right now?
Are you dating somebody right now that you’re not getting the kind of return on investment you want, and you want to figure out how to improve the yield?
Don’t accept what you’re given freely. Chances are that almost anybody will give you all that you want if you’ll only have the guts to actually put your foot down and demand it.
Remember, people don’t give you their best until you ask for it, and expect it. What you’re getting right now is their minimum effort to get any return from you. The more you give them back and the less fuss you make for substandard performance, the less they figure they need to do for you.
This is especially true in dating. This may sound pessimistic, but it’s a real fact of human nature. We slide by with a minimum of effort wherever possible.
Be careful not to let this attitude creep into your abilities with women.
Ask for more, from her — AND from you. Now go and get some…